The End of a Relationship is not a Failure

Healing a broken heart can be one of the most transformative experiences in life. Part of the journey means learning to accept that nothing stays the same, that everything changes, and that we need to give up the illusion of permanence.

Of course, this is extremely difficult for us because our lives are based on securing safety and continuity, and anything that doesn’t look like that is considered a failure.

So, the first thing to start recovering from a broken heart is to let go of the illusion that a relationship's end is a failure. The second thing is to give up the idea that relationships are forever. The reality is that nothing is permanent unless we keep choosing the same partner over and over again, also accepting that we change.