You may be feeling abandoned, rejected, criticized, betrayed, unprotected, unloved alone…
Desperately trying to get some comfort, consolation, relief, trying to make sense of what just happened to you, maybe even trying to get your ex partner back. But what is really happening here, is that you are facing the old wounds that have been there all along, hidden, covered with the illusion that that person was giving you exactly what you needed and now is gone. You find yourself empty handed, alone in your despair that no one can really understand. Only you. So the journey has began, probably the most important journey of your life, that eventually will give you the opportunity to face the best healer you can get: yourself, and your inner wisdom.
Embrace your younger self
First step is to find the courage to be still with your emotions and feelings, no resisting them, even when it feels like you will die. You won’t, believe me. What you are facing is your younger self, who once felt abandoned, neglected, unprotected, rejected or abused, and at that moment she only did what she could, considering she didn’t have the maturity or the resources to cope with that hurt. You are wounded, deeply, and this experience is bringing all that suffering to the present moment, uncovering that old pain, layer after layer, until it feels raw and bleeds.
You will see that the only person in the world who is reliable, sincere, unconditional and loving, is no one but yourself. So embrace it, get to know yourself and accept who you really are, just as you are, without needing to change anything. You don’t need to make huge efforts to please anyone other that yourself. Practice the unconditional love with the wounded little one, the innocent and beautiful being that she is. Yes, you may have make mistakes and suffered the consequences, but love yourself as a mother will do, with gentle care and compassion. No blame, no shame, no guilt.